Welcome to the Dating Coach For Men. I am Al Young your dating coach. Try it for Free! So that you can see me speak, to the left is a 1 minute video of me talking about an internet TV show I am producing. Below are my "Dating Tips for Men". You can contact me anytime.
Al Young
Phone/Text: (520) 338-1004
Email: alyoung2007@yahoo.com
Tucson, Arizona
DATING TIPS FOR MEN ... HOW TO TAKE YOUR DATING GAME TO THE NEXT LEVEL.
1. Carry yourself well
First impressions count, and if you look and feel good, women will notice. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you will only find success if you’re lean and muscular. In fact, women have all sorts of different preferences when it comes to body types. But what really matters when attracting women is confidence. Whether you spend your free time at the gym or you’re rocking a dad bod, confidence and self-assuredness will make you stand out from the crowd. Having a great posture also displays confidence and gives you an aura that makes you stand out. When your body language exudes sex appeal and confidence, you can easily stand out while just chilling at the end of the bar and have women circle around you, waiting for you to approach them.
2. Dress well
The second part of looking good is to dress well. When we say ‘well,’ we don’t just mean dress smart. What will really make you catch a woman’s eye is dressing with a unique style that makes you stand out.
Perhaps you can wear interesting jewelry or bright colors. Maybe you can wear a suit when most people are in jeans and a blazer. You might even wear that obscure band shirt in the hopes that a lady of similar musical inclinations will approach you. This flashy display of dress sense will only work when you wear pieces that speak to who you are and make you feel comfortable. Just avoid tacky logos and childish clothing. The intention is to make women interested in you with your looks rather than with your actions so that they’ll be curious to talk to you and find out more.
3. Be comfortable in your surroundings
Whether that is chatting with your friend or wandering around the club on your own, do what you enjoy and what makes you feel comfortable. Don’t feel like you have an obligation to be in your friend’s pocket all of the time. If they want to dance and you don’t want to, do your own thing for a while.
If you look awkward or uncomfortable, women will think you are boring or weird. You need to be happy in yourself and around other people in this sort of environment without it fazing you. For sure, you don’t have to actually talk to anyone if you don’t want to. You can spend more time people-watching than talking to people.
4. Understand women’s signals
Guys are pretty straightforward – they tend to say and do as they mean. Women are much more subtle, and they won’t usually blatantly check you out or come and talk to you – although, it does happen more when they are drunk. Women will glance at you repeatedly, hold eye contact, brush past you when there is space not to do so, and just hang around in close proximity to you. They might come and stand right next to you at the bar to order a drink, even if there is plenty of space further along the bar. These are the subtle signals that you need to recognize. If in doubt, assume that she is flirting with you and approach her anyway. Over time, you will learn to instinctively feel if she is indeed flirting with you or if she just happens to keep running into you by mere coincidence.
5. Hold eye contact
This is the easiest way to let a girl know that you are interested in her without even having to speak to her. If she holds eye contact back, smiles, or looks away and giggles, and then quickly looks back, she probably likes you. It takes a certain degree of confidence and comfort to hold eye contact, so practice it regularly until you are comfortable doing so. This way, you know if a woman probably already likes you, so you won’t waste your energy talking to women who are just not interested in you.
6. Don’t fear rejection
You want to put the odds in your favor by making eye contact and seeing if she reciprocates or flirts with you in some other way before you approach her. But even when you do this, you will still sometimes be rejected. It’s not because you are butt ugly or a horrible person, so don’t worry about it!
It happens. It doesn’t do you any harm. You don’t know her, and she doesn’t know you. She is probably drunk, and you will never see her again.
If you are affected by her rejection, you probably need to work on building your self-esteem before focusing on meeting women.
7. Manage your mood
You can’t let a rejection get you down. Equally, you do not want to get stuck in a conversation that is going nowhere or any other activity that is sapping your limited social energy. You have to really manage your mood and ensure that you keep a positive frame of mind. If you’re not having a good time, we guarantee that nobody will want to talk to you. Don’t be scared to take some time out, go chill with your friends, or even go outside for some air and quiet time.
8. When the opportunity arises, take it
This is the biggest mistake that many guys make. They eventually pluck up the courage to talk to the girl they like, and she is open to the approach, but he is too timid to take things further. Sometimes, she will take the lead and move things along, but this is fairly rare. Rather, you need to be comfortable in escalating the interaction away from friendly chitchat to something more intimate. If she is talking to you for more than 2 minutes, smiling, laughing, or touching you in any way, she likes you. Take things to the next level! Tease her, touch her back, and be confident. Take her to get a drink, to sit down, or to dance if you want to break the tension.
9. Don’t force it
Listen, there are going to be some days when you won’t be able to successfully hit on a girl, while other days your phone will be full of numbers. Don’t ask us why. Sometimes, people are in crappy moods, or the music is better than last week. The point is you can’t force a situation to happen, especially when learning how to pick up girls at a bar. Sure, you can approach a girl, but if she’s not feeling it, back off.
10. Give it a go early in the night
Don’t wait four hours to hit on a girl. Do it right at the beginning of the night. If you get rejected, you have some time to mull it over and continue on with your night. If you wait too long, you might become more nervous or afraid. So, it’s best to get the possible rejection over and done with right in the beginning.
11. Be yourself
We cannot emphasize this enough. Don’t feed her with some idea of what you want her to think of you as. Just be yourself. If she feels that you bullshit her at any moment, the odds of you successfully picking her up at the bar are slim. You’re at the bar for a reason, and she knows why, so if she’s going to go home with you, she needs to make sure you are who you say you are.
12. Keep your eyes open for opportunity
When it comes to knowing how to pick up girls at a bar, there are always opportunities to talk to them, but most of the time, men aren’t paying attention. You need to be alert. Keep your eyes open for those small chances to strike up a conversation. Those are the best moments.
13. Don’t stare
Yes, you find her captivating, and yes, we know that eye contact helps to build a connection, but staring doesn’t. Avoid staring at her, as she’s far more likely to find you weird rather than sexy. Instead, hold eye contact for a second or so and then look away. Repeat it again a few moments later. That’s all you need.
14. Don’t ignore her friends
One key strategy for meeting women is to avoid ignoring her friends. Buy them a drink too. They’ll think you’re Prince Charming, and they won’t mind that you’re chatting up their friend.
15. Don’t try too hard to make her laugh
A good sense of humor is always sexy, but some people have it, and others don’t. Avoid trying to use a stand-up comedy routine to make her laugh – she’ll see straight through it, and it won’t be sexy at all. If you make her laugh once, that’s enough. You don’t have to push it.